Written by: Oluwabiyi Esther Ayomide
Girl’s Stuff at Villpress is a weekly series where we talk about real-life issues girls face, from relationships to self-esteem and everything in between.
Today, I have the privilege of speaking with Amarachi, a remarkable young woman who has faced immense challenges and come out stronger. Growing up as a pastor’s daughter, Amarachi was known for her dedication to church activities, her strong faith, and her commitment to serving others. However, her journey took an unexpected turn during her first year at university. Let’s hear her story in her own words.
Amarachi, thank you for being here. Can you tell us about yourself?
Amarachi: Thank you for having me. My name is Amarachi, and I grew up in a small town in the Northern part of Nigeria as a pastor’s daughter. Life for me was all about church—youth programs, Sunday school, worship leading—you name it, I was there. I believed everything would fall into place as long as I stayed focused on God’s work. My family taught me strong values, and I always felt like I had to set a good example for myself and the people looking up to me in the community.
It sounds like you had a solid foundation. What happened that shifted things?
Amarachi: Hmm, life happened o. When I got to university, it was my first taste of real freedom. My parents were far away, and for the first time, I was on my own. That’s when I met Daniel. He was kind and helpful, and we just clicked. It started with small things—he’d walk me to class or help me with assignments. Before I knew it, we were spending all our time together. It felt like I had found someone who really understood me.
How did your relationship with Daniel grow from there?
Amarachi: Honestly, at first, it was just innocent. I didn’t even think of him like that. He’d come to my room sometimes because I didn’t have a roommate, and we’d gist or study. It felt like having my own person on campus, you know? But as time went on, we got too comfortable. It started with little things—holding hands, sitting too close, playful touches. We didn’t set any boundaries because we thought we were just friends. Looking back now, I see how it all added up.
So, when did things cross the line?
Amarachi: Hmm, it was one rainy night. He couldn’t go back to his dorm, so he stayed over. It was supposed to be another normal evening, but somehow, things got more intense. One thing led to another, and before I knew it, we’d crossed lines I never thought I would. I kept telling myself we were still just friends, but deep down, I knew something had changed.
How did you feel afterward?
Amarachi: At first, I tried to ignore the guilt. I told myself it wasn’t a big deal, but it weighed on me. The worst part was the fear of disappointing my parents and everyone who looked up to me. I felt like I had failed myself, my family, and even God.
When did you realize you were pregnant?
Amarachi: Ah, that one hit me like thunder. I missed my period, but I was still in denial. When I finally took the test and saw two lines, it felt like my world stopped. I cried and begged God to make it go away. I couldn’t imagine how I’d face my parents, the church, or anyone.
How did your parents react when you told them?
Amarachi: Hmm, it wasn’t easy o. My dad couldn’t even look at me, and my mum was so hurt. The disappointment was written all over their faces. Then there was the gossip from church people. It felt like everyone was judging me. I stopped going to church because I couldn’t bear the stares and whispers.
That sounds really tough. How did you deal with everything?
Amarachi: Honestly, I struggled. I cried a lot and felt so alone. But eventually, I decided to face the situation head-on. I chose to keep the baby, even though it wasn’t easy. I focused on finishing my degree and preparing for motherhood. It was a tough balance, but I kept pushing.
What helped you find the strength to move forward?
Amarachi: I started praying again, even when it felt hard. I joined a support group for young mothers, and hearing their stories made me realize I wasn’t alone. Slowly, I began to forgive myself and rebuild my life. I also had a few friends who stood by me. Their support gave me the courage to keep going.
That’s inspiring. How has motherhood changed you?
Amarachi: Motherhood has changed everything. It’s made me stronger, more focused, and determined to be a better person. Holding my baby for the first time was a wake-up call. I realized I needed to move forward, not just for me but for my child. I finished school, got a good job, and built a stable life.
What advice would you give to someone in a similar situation?
Amarachi: First, don’t be too hard on yourself. Mistakes happen, but they don’t define you. Surround yourself with people who will support and uplift you. Take it one day at a time, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. And most importantly, hold on to your faith. God doesn’t abandon us, even when we mess up.
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